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ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°è - Simple 12 Steps


ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°è ÇнÀ (Step Six)


¿ì¸®´Â Çϳª´Ô²²¼­ ¼º°Ý»ó ¾àÁ¡µéÀ» ¸ðµÎ ¾ø¾Ö ÁÖ½Ç ¸ðµç Áغñ°¡ µÇ¾ú½À´Ï´Ù
(Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character)

ÀÌÁ¦ ȸº¹ 4, 5 ´Ü°è¸¦ ÀÌÇàÇÏ°í ³­ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¡°º¯È­µÈ »ç¶÷µé¡± ÀÌ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Àü¿¡ Áßµ¶¹®Á¦°¡ ÀÖ¾ú´ø ¶§¿Í °°Àº »îÀ» »ç´Â ÀÏÀº °áÄÚ º¼ ¼ö ¾øÀ» °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ÀÌÀü ȸº¹´Ü°èµéÀÌ ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» »õ·Ó°í ´Ù¸¥ »ç°í¿¡ ºñÃ߾ ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» º¸µµ·Ï ÀεµÇؼ­, ÀÌÁ¦ Áö³­ ¼ö³â°£ óÀ½À¸·Î ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ´õ¿í ¿ÏÀüÈ÷ ¾Ë°Ô µÇ¾ú´Ù. ´«¿¡ º¸ÀÌ´Â ¸ðµç °ÍµéÀ» ÁÁ¾Æ ÇÒ ¼ö°¡ ¾ø¾î¼­ ´çÀå º¯È­µÇ°í ½Í¾îÁú °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ±×·¯³ª ¿ì¸® Àڽſ¡ ´ëÇؼ­ ½È¾îÇÏ´Â »çÇ×µéÀ» º¯È­Çϱâ ÀÌÀü¿¡ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ È¸º¹À» À§Çؼ­ Á» ´õ Çؾ߸¸ ÇÒ ÀϵéÀÌ ÀÖ´Ù. Áï, ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ È¸º¹ 6 ´Ü°è¸¦ Çؾ߸¸ ÇÑ´Ù.

(Because of Steps 4 and 5, we are now "changed people." We will never see our lives the same way we used to. These Steps have led us to see ourselves in a new and different light. For the first time in years, we now know ourselves in a more complete way. We won't like everything we see, and we'll want to change. But there is one more bit of recovery we must do before we can change the things we don't like about ourselves. We must become ready for the changes. We must take Step 6)

¿ì¸®µéÀÌ È¸º¹ 6 ´Ü°è¸¦ ÀÌÇàÇÒ ¶§¿¡´Â ÀÌ¹Ì È¸º¹ 4~5 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ ÀÌ·èÇÑ È¸º¹ÀÛ¾÷¿¡´Ù ȸº¹À» ´õ ±¸ÃàÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀº °¨Á¤À» º¯È­½ÃÅ°´Â ¾à¹°À̳ª Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§¸¦ Çß¾úÀ» ¶§¿¡´Â Á¾Á¾ ¡°±×·± ô ÇØ¾ß ÇÏ´Â ¼¼°è¿¡¡±¿¡¼­ »ì¾Ò´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ÀϺΠ¼º°ÝÀÌ ½È¾úÀ» ¶§¿¡´Â ±×·± ¼º°Ý ¹®Á¦°¡ ¾ø´Â °Íó·³ Ç༼¸¦ Ç߰ųª ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷À» ºñ³­Çϱ⸸ Çß¾úÀ» °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ȸº¹ 4~5´Ü°è°¡ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ÁÁÀº Á¡µé ¹× ³ª»Û Á¡µé°ú ÇÔ²² Áø½Ç·Î ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ´©±¸ÀÎÁö¸¦ ¾Ë°Ô µµ¿òÀ» Áִµ¥ ÇÊ¿äÇß´ø °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(When we work on Step 6, we build on the work we did in Steps 4 and 5. When we were using our mood-changing chemicals, or doing addictive behaviors, we often lived in ¡°a world of let's pretend.¡± If we didn't like some part of our personality, we would pretend it wasn't there or blame it on someone else. So we needed Steps 4 and 5 to help us see who we truly are, with all our good points as well as our bad points)

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº ȸº¹ 4´Ü°è¿¡¼­ ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ¾Ë¾Æº¸±â À§ÇØ ¾ÆÁÖ ¿­½ÉÈ÷ ȸº¹ÀÛ¾÷À» Çß´Ù
    (We have worked very hard on Step 4 to get to know ourselves)

  • ȸº¹ 5 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­´Â ¿ì¸®Àڽſ¡ °üÇØ ¹ß°ßÇÑ »çÇ×µéÀ» Çϳª´Ô, ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½Å, ±×¸®°í ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷¿¡°Ô ½ÃÀÎÇϹǷμ­ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ´©±¸Àΰ¡¿¡ ´ëÇÑ Ã¥ÀÓÀ» Á³´Ù
    (In Step 5, we took responsibility for who we are by admitting to God, to ourselves, and to another human being what we have learned about ourselves)

  • ÀÌÁ¦ ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Çϳª´Ô²²¼­ ÀÌµé ¼º°Ý°áÇÔµéÀ» Á¦°ÅÇØ Áֽõµ·Ï ¸ðµç Áغñ¸¦ ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀº ¾ÆÁÖ ´ç¿¬ÇÑ È¸º¹°úÁ¤ÀÓÀ» ¹ß°ßÇÏ°Ô µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù
    (In Step 6, we will find that becoming entirely ready to have God remove these defects of character is quite a process in itself)
1. ¸ðµç Áغñ°¡ µÇ¾ú½À´Ï´Ù
(...Were entirely ready...)

12´Ü°è ÇÁ·Î±×·¥ â½ÃÀÚµéÀº ÂüÀ¸·Î Á¤Á÷ÇÏ°í Çö½ÇÀûÀÎ »ç¶÷µé À̾ú´Ù. ±×µéÀº ¿À´Ã³¯ Áßµ¶¿¡ óÇÑ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Ã浿ÀûÀÎ »ç¶÷µé·Î ½±°Ô ¼ÓÈ÷ ³´°í ½Í¾î Çؼ­, ¡°ÁÖº¯ »çÇ×µéÀ» ±íÀÌ »ý°¢Çغ¸±âµµ Àü¿¡ Çൿ(To act before we think things through)¡±ºÎÅÍ ÇÏ´Â °æÇâÀ» ÀÍÈ÷ ¾Ë°í ÀÖ¾ú´Ù. ¶ÇÇÑ Ã¢½ÃÀÚµéÀº ¼ÓÈ÷ ½±°Ô ¾òÀº ÇØ´äµéÀº ¿À·¡ Áö¼ÓµÇÁö ¸øÇؼ­ - ¡°½±°Ô µé¾î¿Â °ÍÀº ½±»ç¸® ¾ø¾îÁö°Ô ¸¶·Ã(Easy come, easy go)¡± À̶ó´Â °ÍÀ» ¾Ë¾Ò¾ú´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ȸº¹ 6´Ü°è¿¡¼­´Â ¡°Á» õõÈ÷ »ý°¢(Slow up and think) ÇÏ´Â °¨°¢À» Áö´Ï´Â °ÍÀº ¾ÆÁÖ Áß¿äÇÑ ÀÚ»êÀÌ µÈ´Ù¡±´Â ¸»À» Çß¾ú´Ù.

(The founders of this 12 Step program were both honest and realistic people. They knew that we, as addicts, are impulsive people - we want quick and easy fixes, and we tend "to act before we think things through." The founders also knew that quick and easy answers don't last - "easy come, easy go." So in writing Step 6, they were saying, in a sense, "Slow up and think. This is serious stuff.")

óÀ½ ¼º°Ý°áÇÔµéÀÌ Á¦°ÅµÇ¾úÀ» ¶§¿¡´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¾ó¸¶³ª º¯È­µÇ¾ú´ÂÁö¸¦ ÀνÄÇÏÁö ¸øÇÏ°í, ±×³É ºÎÀûÇÕÇÑ ÇàÀ§µéÀ» ÇÏÁö ¾Ê°íµµ ¾ÆÁÖ Æí¾ÈÇØÁú ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù´Â »ý°¢À» ÇÑ´Ù. ±×·¯³ª ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ¼º°Ý°áÇÔµéÀº »Ñ¸®°¡ ¾ÆÁÖ ±í¾î¼­ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ±× °áÇԵ鿡 ÀÇÁöÇÏ¸ç »ì¾Æ¿Ô´Ù. ½ÇÁ¦·Î ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¼º°Ý°áÇԵ鿡 ÀÇÁ¸ÇÏ¸ç ¼ºÀåÇؼ­ °áÇÔµé°ú´Â ¾ÆÁÖ Æí¾ÈÇÑ »çÀÌ·Î, ÀÌµé ¼º°Ý°áÇÔµéÀº ÀÚ¿¬½º·´°í Á¤»óÀÎ °Íó·³ º¸À̱⵵ ÇÑ´Ù. ½ÉÁö¾î ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ °áÇÔµéÀ» ±»°Ô ¹Ï°í ÀÖ¾î, °ú°Å¿¡´Â ²À ÇÊ¿äÇÑ ¼º°Ýµéó·³ ¹Ï¾ú¾ú´Ù.

(At first, we don't realize how much change we are in for when our character defects are removed. We think things will be pretty easy without the crummy parts of our behavior. But our character defects are deeply rooted, and we are attached to them. In fact, we grew to depend on our character defects. We were comfortable with them. They seemed natural and normal to us. We believe in our defects. We believed we needed them)

¿ì¸®µéÀº À̱âÀûÀÎ »ç¶÷µé·Î ¿ì¸®µé¿¡°Ô´Â À̱âÁÖÀÇ°¡ ÇÊ¿äÇÑ °ÍÀ¸·Î ¹Ï¾ú¾ú´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¸ðµç »ç¶÷µéÀÌ À̱âÀûÀÎ °ÍÀ¸·Î ¾Ë¾Æ¼­ À̱âÀûÀÌÁö ¸øÇÏ¸é ¾î¸®¼®Àº °ÍÀ¸·Î »ý°¢À» Çß¾ú´Ù.

(We were selfish people and believed that we needed our selfishness. We thought everyone was selfish and we would be fools to give it up)

12´Ü°è ȸº¹ÇÁ·Î±×·¥ â½ÃÀÚµéÀº »ç¶÷µéÀÌ ¾î¶»°Ô º¯È­µÇ´Â Áö¸¦ ÀÍÈ÷ Àß ¾Ë¾Ò°í, º¸´Ù Àß º¯È­µÇ±â À§Çؼ­´Â ½Ã°£ÀÌ °É¸®´Â ÀÛ¾÷ÀÓÀ» ¾Ë¾Ò´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéµµ ¡°¸ðµç Áغñ(Entirely ready)¡±¸¦ Çϱâ À§Çؼ­´Â ½Ã°£ÀÌ ÇÊ¿äÇϸç, ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°è´Â ´ÙÀ½ ´Ü°è¸¦ À§ÇÑ Áغñ´Ü°è·Î, ¡°Áغñ´Â °ð Çൿ(Getting ready is action)¡± ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°è¸¦ °æ¼ÖÇÏ°Ô Çؼ­´Â ¾ÊµÈ´Ù. ´ëºÎºÐ ȸº¹Âü¿©ÀÚµéÀº Áغñ°úÁ¤¿¡´Â Çൿ°ú Èûµç ÀÛ¾÷ÀÇ Àǹ̰¡ ³»Æ÷µÇ¾î ÀÖÀ½À» Àß ÀÌÇØÇÏÁö ¸øÇؼ­ ÀÚÁÖ 6 ´Ü°è¸¦ ±×³É ³Ñ¾î°¡·Á°í ÇÑ´Ù.

(The founders of this program knew how people change. To change, even for the better, takes time. We need time to become "entirely ready." Step 6 is a getting-ready Step. "Getting ready is action." This is not a Step to pass over lightly. It is often a Step that is overlooked because many of us have a hard time understanding that getting ready menas action and hard work)

ȸº¹ 6´Ü°è ÀÌÇàÀ» ¸¶Ä¡ Áý ¸¶´ç¿¡ Á¤¿øÀ» ¸¸µé¾î ³ª¹«¸¦ ½É´Â Áغñ¸¦ ÇÏ´Â °Í°ú °°ÀÌ »ý°¢ÇÏ¸é µµ¿òÀÌ µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ¾¾¸¦ ÆÄÁ¾Çϱâ Àü¿¡ Á¤¿øÀ» ¸¸µå´Â µ¥´Â ´ÙÀ½°ú °°ÀÌ ÇØ¾ß ÇÒ ÀϵéÀÌ ¸¹´Ù.
(It might help to think of Step 6 as being similar to getting ready to plant a garden on our yard. Having a good garden takes a lot of work before the first seed ever gets planted as the following)

  • ¸ÕÀú Áý ¸¶´ç¿¡ Á¤¿øÀ¸·Î ÇÕ´çÇÑ Àå¼Ò¸¦ ã¾ÆºÁ¾ß ÇÑ´Ù. ÇÞºµÀÌ Àß µå´ÂÁö ±×¸®°í Åä¾çÀº ¾î¶²Áö¸¦ Á¡°ËÇØ¾ß ÇÑ´Ù
    (First, we have to look over the yard to find a good spot. We check out how much sunlight hits that spot and what kind of soil is there)

  • ±× ´ÙÀ½ Á¤¿ø ÈëÀ» °í·ê ¿¬Àåµé, ºñ·á, ¾¾¾Ñ µîÀ» È®º¸ÇÏ°í 1 ³â Áß¿¡ ÆÄÁ¾ÇÒ ½Ã±â¸¦ ±â´Ù·Á¼­ Á¤¿ø¿¡ °¡²Ù°í ½ÍÀº ¾¾¸¦ ÆÄÁ¾ÇØ¾ß ÇÑ´Ù.
    (Then, we plant what we want to plant, making sure we have the tools, fertilizer, and seeds. Next, we wait for the right time of year)

  • ±×·± ´ÙÀ½¿¡ ÀâÃʵéÀ» »Ì°í, ÈëÀ» °í·ç¸ç, µ¹µéÀ» Ãß·Á³»¾î, °Å¸§À» »Ñ·Á ¾¾¸¦ ÆÄÁ¾ÇÒ °í¶ûÀ» ÆÇ´Ù
    (Then we roll back the sod, cultivate the soil, pick out the rocks, fertilize, plan the rows)

ÀÌÁ¦ µåµð¾î ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¾¾¾ÑÀ» ½ÉÀ» Áغñ°¡ µÈ °ÍÀÌ´Ù!
(Now we are ready to plant the seed!)

¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ¼º°Ý°áÇÔµéÀ» Á¦°Å½ÃÅ°±â À§Çؼ­´Â ¶ÇÇÑ ¸¹Àº Áغñ¸¦ ÇØ¾ß ÇÑ´Ù. ¸ÕÀú, ȸº¹ 4 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ ¿ì¸®ÀڽŵéÀ» »ìÆ캸°í, ȸº¹ 5 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ´©±¸Àΰ¡¸¦ ½ÃÀÎÇؼ­, ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­´Â º¯È­ÇÒ »ý°¢À» ½ÃÀÛÇÏ°Ô µÈ´Ù.

(Having our defects of character removed also takes a lot of preparation. First, we look ourselves over in Step 4, and we admit who we are in Step 5. Then we start thinking about changing in Step 6)

¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ³ª»Ú´Ù°í ÆÇ´ÜÇϱ⠶§¹®¿¡ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¼öÄ¡½ÉÀ» ´À³¢°Ô µÈ´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ Áö³­³¯ Áßµ¶¿¡ óÇØ ÀÖ¾úÀ» ¶§¿¡ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áßµ¶ÇàÀ§³ª ¾à¹°ÀÇÁ¸À» ¼û°å´ø °Íó·³ ȸº¹À» ½ÃÀÛÇÑ Áö±Ýµµ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ³ª»Û Á¡À» ¼û±â·Á°í¸¸ ÇÑ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ º¯È­ÇÏ·Á¸é ¼º°Ý°áÇÔ¿¡ ´ëÇÑ ¼öÄ¡½ÉÀ» °®´Â ÀÏÀ» ÁßÁöÇؾ߸¸ ÇÑ´Ù. ±×·¡¾ß¸¸ ÇÏ´Â ÀÌÀ¯´Â ¼öÄ¡½ÉÀº ¿ì¸®µé·Î ÇÏ¿©±Ý ¼º°Ý°áÇÔµéÀ» Á¤Á÷ÇÏ°Ô º¸Áö ¸øÇÏ°Ô Çؼ­ ±× °áÇÔµé·ÎºÎÅÍ ±³ÈƵµ ¾òÁö ÇÏÁö ¸øÇϱ⠶§¹®ÀÌ´Ù. ºñ·Ï ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀÌ ¿ÏÀüÇÏÁö ¸øÇÑ °ÍÀÌ ºÐ¸íÇصµ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ºÎÁ·ÇÑ ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ¼ö¶ôÇÏ°í »ç¶ûÇؾ߸¸ ÇÑ´Ù. ±×·¡¾ß ¿ì¸®µéÀº °áÁ¡µéÀ» ºÎ´ã ¾øÀÌ »ìÆ캼 ¼ö ÀÖ°í ±× °áÁ¡µé·ÎºÎÅÍ ¸¹Àº °ÍÀ» ´õ ¹è¿ì°Ô µÈ´Ù.

(We feel shame because we judge ourselves as being bad. So we hide our bad behavior from ourselves just as we once hid our addictive behaviors or substance dependency from ourselves. We have to stop feeling shame about our character defects before we can change. Why? Because our shame keeps us from not seeing them honestly and leaning from them. We must accept and love ourselves even we clearly see how we are not perfect. Then we are free to look at our defects and learn from them)

¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ¹®Á¦¸¦ ÀÌÇØÇÏ´Â ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷µé°ú ¿ì¸® °áÁ¡µé¿¡ ´ëÇؼ­ À̾߱⸦ ÇÏ°í, ¿ì¸®µéÀº °áÁ¡µéÀ» ´ÙÀ½°ú °°ÀÌ »ý°¢ÇÏ°í ¹¬»ó ÇغÁ¾ß ÇÑ´Ù.
(We talk about our defects with others who understand. We think and meditate about our defects. We ask ourselves as following)

  • ³ª´Â ¿Ö ±×·¸°Ô ÇൿÇÒ±î? (Why do I act that way?)

  • ³»°¡ ±×·± ½ÄÀÇ ÇൿÀ» Áß´ÜÇÒ ¶§¿¡´Â ¾î¶² ÀϵéÀÌ »ý±æ±î?
    (What will happen when I stop acting that way?)

  • ´ë½Å, ³ª´Â ¾î¶»°Ô ÇൿÇÏ°í ½Í¾î Çϳª?
    (How would I like to act instead?)

¿ì¸®µéÀÌ È¸º¹ 6 ´Ü°è¸¦ Çϸ鼭´Â Áø½Ç µÈ °â¼ÕÀ» ´À³¢±â ½ÃÀÛÇÑ´Ù. °â¼ÕÀº ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ´©±¸ÀÌ°í ¾î¶»°Ô ¼¼»ó¿¡ ÀûÀÀÇÏ¸ç »ì¾Æ°¥ ¼ö ÀÖ´À³Ä¿¡ ´ëÇØ Á¤Á÷ÇÑ °ßÇØ¿Í Åµµ¸¦ °®´Â °ÍÀ» ÀǹÌÇÑ´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ½½ÇÁ°Ô »ý°¢Çϰųª ¼öÄ¡½º·´´Ù°í ´À³¢Áö ¸»°í ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ÁÁ°í ³ª»Û ¾ç¸é ¸ðµÎ¸¦ ¼ö¶ôÇØ¾ß ÇÑ´Ù.

(As we work Step 6, we should start to feel true humility. Humility means we have an honest view and open attitude about who we are and how we fit into the world. We accept both our good and had sides without giving in to self-pity or shame)

  • ÀÚ°¡ ¿¬¹ÎÀº ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¼º°Ý°áÇÔ ÇؼÒÀÛ¾÷À» À§Çؼ­ ¾Æ¹«·± Ã¥ÀÓÀ» ÁöÁö ¾Ê¾Ò´Ù´Â Áõ°Å´Ù.
    (Our self-pity was a sign that we were not taking responsibility for doing something about our character defects)

  • °ú°Å¿¡ ¼öÄ¡½ÉÀ» Áö³æ´Ù´Â °ÍÀº ÀÖ´Â ¸ð½À ±×´ë·Î ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» º¸°í ½Í¾î ÇÏÁö ¾Ê¾Ò´Ù´Â Áõ°ÅÀÌ´Ù. ¸¸¾à ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ±×·¨´Ù¸é ÀÌ´Â ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ³ª»Û »ç¶÷À¸·Î ÆÇ´ÜÇؼ­ À̾úÀ» °ÍÀÌ´Ù.
    (Our shmae was a sign that we were not willing to see ourselves for who we were. We thought that if we did, we would judge ourselves as being bad people)

ÀÌ·¸°Ô ¿ì¸®µéÀº °â¼ÕÇÏ°Ô ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» »ìÆ캼 ¶§±îÁö º¯È­µÉ Áغñ°¡ µÇ¾ú´Ù°í ¸»ÇÒ ¼ö ¾ø°í, º¯È­¸¦ ¿äûÇϱâ Àü¿¡ ¾î´À Á¤µµÀÇ Ä¡À¯´Â ÇؾßÇÑ´Ù.

(We aren't ready to change until we take a humble look at ourselves. It takes a certain amount of healing before we ask to be changed)

ȸº¹ 4~5 ´Ü°è¸¦ ÅëÇؼ­ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ´ÜÁö ºÎÁ·ÇÒ ¼ö¹Û¿¡ ¾ø´Â Àΰ£ÀÓÀ» ¾Ë°í ÀÎÁ¤ÇÏ°Ô µÈ´Ù.
(Through working Steps 4 & 5, we see and admit that we are only human)

¿ì¸®µéÀº ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ÀÖ´Â ±×´ë·Î¸¦ ¼ö¶ôÇϴµ¥ ÇÑ ´Ü°è¸¦ ´õ ÀÌÇàÇÏ·Á´Â °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ¸¸¾à ¾ÆÁ÷µµ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ÇàÀ§ ÀϺο¡ ´ëÇؼ­ ¼öÄ¡½ÉÀ» ´À³¢°í ÀÖ´Ù¸é, Ä£±¸, ÈÄ¿øÀÚ, ¸ñȸÀÚ, »ó´ãÀÚ³ª, ¶Ç´Â ÀÌµé ¸ðµç »ç¶÷µé¿¡°Ô ¸»À» Çؼ­ ±× ¼öÄ¡½º·± »çÇ׵鿡 ´ëÇÑ È¸º¹ÀÛ¾÷À» ÇÒ ÇÊ¿ä°¡ ÀÖ´Ù. ±×·¸°Ô ÇÔÀ¸·Î¼­ ¿ì¸®Àڽſ¡°Ô´Â ¼º°Ý°áÇÔ Á¦°Å¸¦ Áغñ½ÃÅ°´Â ÀÏÀÌ µÈ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ °áÁ¡Á¦°Å¸¦ À§Çؼ­ ÁغñÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Â ÁÖ¿ä ¹æ¹ý Áß¿¡ Çϳª´Â °áÇÔÀ» ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ÇÑ ºÎºÐÀ¸·Î ¼ÖÁ÷ÇÑ ¼ö¶ôÀ» ÅëÇؼ­ ÇÏ´Â °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(In working Step 6, we go one step further - we accept ourselves, just as we are. If we are still feeling shameful about some of our behaviors, we may need to work on them by talking more with a friend, our sponsor, a clergy person, a counselor, or all of these. By doing this, we are preparing ourselves to have these defects of character removed. One of the main ways we get ready for the removal of our defects is through honest acceptance of them as part of us)

ºñ·Ï ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ È¸º¹ 6 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ ¸ðµç Áغñ°¡ µÇ¾ú´Ù´Â ¸»Àº ÇÏÁö¸¸~

  • Á¤¸» ³»°¡ ±× °íÁúÀûÀÎ °áÁ¡µé ¾øÀÌ »ì¾Æ°¥ Áغñ°¡ µÇ¾ú³ª?
  • °ú¿¬ ³»°¡ °ú°Å¿Í´Â ´Ù¸¥ ¹æ¹ýÀ¸·Î »ì¾Æ°¥ Áغñ°¡ µÇ¾ú³ª?

ÇÏ´Â ÀǽÉÇÏ´Â À½¼ºÀ» ÀÚÁÖ µéÀ» ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù. ÀÌ·± Áú¹®Àº ±ØÈ÷ Á¤»óÀÌ´Ù. À̴ ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°èÀÇ Çʿ伺À» »ý°¢ÇÏ°Ô Çϱ⠶§¹®ÀÌ´Ù. ÀÌÁ¦ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ Áø½Ç·Î ¼º°Ý°áÇÔµéÀ» ¹ö¸± Áغñ¸¦ ÇÒ ½Ã°£ÀÌ ÇÊ¿äÇÏ´Ù.

(Even we say we're entirely ready in Step 6, but we often hear the questioning in our voice. ¡°Am I really ready to live without them?¡± ¡°Am I really ready to live in a different way?¡± This questioning is normal. It's because we question that there is a need for Step 6. Now, we need time to truly become ready to give up our character defects)

±×·¡¼­ ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀÌ È¸º¹ 6 ´Ü°è¸¦ ÀÌÇàÇϵµ·Ï ÇØ¾ß ÇÑ´Ù. 6 ´Ü°è °úÁ¦¸¦ Àаí 12´Ü°è ȸº¹ ±×·ì°ú ±× ³»¿ëÀ» ³ª´©¾î¶ó. ÈÄ¿øÀڿ͵µ À̾߱âÇضó. ÇÏÁö¸¸ ´ëºÎºÐ ½Ã°£À» ¡°¸ðµç Áغñ¡±¸¦ Çϴµ¥ »ç¿ëÇضó.

(So allow yourself time to work with Step 6. Read about it. Talk with your 12 Step group about it. Talk with your sponsor, but most of all allow yourself the time needed to become "entirely ready.")

2. Çϳª´Ô²²¼­ ¾ø¾Ö ÁÖ½Ç
(...To have God remove...)

¿ì¸®µéÀÇ Çൿ¿¡¼­ ¹®Á¦ÇàÀ§µéÀ» »ìÆ캸±â ½ÃÀÛÇϸ鼭 ¿ì¸®µéÀº ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÅëÁ¦ÇÏ·Á°í ½ÃµµÇß´ø ´Ü°è¸¦ µ¹¾Æº¸°Ô µÈ´Ù. ¿ì¸®ÀڽŰú ÁÖÀ§ »ç¶÷µé¿¡°Ô ¡°´Ù½Ã´Â ±×·± ÀÏÀ» ÇÏÁö ¾ÊÀ» °ÍÀÌ´Ù¡± ¶ó´Â ¸»À» Çϸ鼭 °­Á¶ÇßÁö¸¸ ´Ù½Ã ±× ÇàÀ§¸¦ ÇÏ´Â ¿ì¸® ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ¹ß°ßÇÑ´Ù.

(As we begin to see our problem behaviors in action, we go through the stage of trying to control our behavior. We make promises to ourselves and to others. "I'll never do that again," we say, and we mean it. But we find ourselves doing it again)

¶§·Î´Â ¶È°°Àº ÀÏÀ» ´Ù½Ã Çϰųª ¸»ÇÏÁö ¾Ê´Â °æ¿ì°¡ À־, ¹Ùº¸½º·´°Ô ¾à°£ »õ·Î¿î ´Ù¸¥ ÀÏÀ» Çß´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ¼º°Ý¹®Á¦´Â Á¶±Ý¾¿ Çâ»óµÇÁö ¼º°Ý¹®Á¦³ª ºÎÁ·ÇÑ ÇàÀ§µéÀ» ÇѲ¨¹ø¿¡ ¸¹ÀÌ º¯È­½Ãų ¼ö ¾øÀ½À» ¾È´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ´Ù½Ã ÇÑ ¹ø ´õ µµ¿òÀ» ÇÊ¿ä·Î ÇÑ´Ù.

(Sometimes we don't do or say exactly the same thing again - we put a new little twist on it to fool ourselves. Bit by bit, we see that we can't change many of our personality problems and crummy behaviors. We need help once more)

ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°è´Â ´©°¡ ¼º°Ý°áÇÔµéÀ» Á¦°Å ÇØ ÁÖ´À³Ä¿¡ ´ëÇØ ºÐ¸íÈ÷ ¼³¸íÇÏ°í ÀÖ´Ù. ¹Ù·Î ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ À§´ëÇϽŠÈûÀ̽Å, Áï ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¾Æ´Â Çϳª´Ô¸¸ÀÌ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ¼º°Ý°áÇÔµéÀ» Á¦°ÅÇØ ÁÖ½Ç ºÐÀ̽ôÙ. ±×·¡¼­ 6 ´Ü°è´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ À§´ëÇÑ Èû²² ÀÇÁöÇÒ °ÍÀ» »ó±â½ÃÄÑÁÖ°í À§´ëÇÑ Èû°úÀÇ °­·ÂÇÑ °ü°è¼ºÀÌ ÇÊ¿äÇÔÀ» °­Á¶ÇÑ´Ù.

(Step 6 states clearly who is going to remove our character defects. Our Higher Power, God as we understand Him, will be the one to remove our defects of character. This Step reminds us of our dependence on our Higher Power and of our need for a strong relationship with our Higher Power)

»ç½Ç ¿ì¸®µéÀº È¥ÀÚ¼­ ¸ðµç °ÍÀ» ´Ù ó¸®ÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù°í ¹Ï´Â ¿Ü·Î¿î »ç¶÷µéÀ̾ú±â ¶§¹®¿¡ ¿ì¸®µé ´ëºÎºÐÀÌ ¼º°Ý°áÇÔµéÀ» ¹ö·Á¹ö¸®°Å³ª ´Ù¸¥ »ç¶÷¿¡°Ô µµ¿òÀ» ûÇϱâ´Â ¾î·Á¿î ÀÏÀÌ´Ù. ±×·¸Áö¸¸ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ȸº¹ÇÁ·Î±×·¥À» ÅëÇؼ­ À§´ëÇÑ Èû²² µµ¿òÀ» ûÇÏ¸é µÈ´Ù´Â ½Å·Ú½ÉÀ» °®±â ½ÃÀÛÇÑ´Ù. ȸº¹¸ðÀÓ¿¡¼­ ´Ù¸¥ Âü¼®ÀÚµéÀÌ º¯È­µÇ´Â °ÍÀ» ¸ñ°ÝÇÑ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀº »ç¶ûÀ¸·Î µ¹º¸½Ã´Â Çϳª´Ô²²¼­ »ç¶÷µéÀ» Ä¡À¯ÇÏ½Ã°í ±×µéÀÌ ¼Ò¿øÇØ¿Â µ¥·Î ÀÌ·ç¾î Áֽô °ÍÀ» ÁöÄѺ¸¾Æ ¿Ô´Ù. Áï ¿ì¸®µéÀº Çϳª´Ô²²¼­ ¿ª»çÇϽÉÀ» Á÷Á¢ ¸ñ°ÝÇÏ¿´´Ù.

(For most of us, giving up our character defects and letting someone help us is hard. We were loners who believed we could handle everything on our own. Through our program of recovery, though, we are starting to trust that it works to ask for help from our Higher Power. In recovery meetings, we watched others change. We've seen a loving, caring God heal people and help them become the people they've wanted to be all along. We've watched God in action)

¿ì¸®µéÀÌ È¸º¹¸ðÀÓ Âü¼®ÀÚµé°ú °è¼Ó ¿¬°áµÇ¾î Àֱ⸸ Çϸé À§´ëÇÑ Èû²²¼­´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ¼º°Ý°áÇÔµéÀ» Á¦°ÅÇØ ÁÖ½Ç °ÍÀÌ´Ù. À§´ëÇÑ Èû²²¼­´Â »ç¶÷µéÀ» ÅëÇؼ­ ¿ª»çÇϽŴÙ. ¿µ¼º°ú »ç¶÷µé°úÀÇ °ü°è·ÎºÎÅÍ ÀÌ·ç¾îÁö´Â Ä¡À¯´Â »ç¶û°ú µ¹º½ ±×¸®°í °ü°è¼º ÀÌ´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¸ÅÀÏ ¸ÅÀÏ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ È¸º¹ÀÌ °¡Á®´ÙÁÙ »õ·Î¿î °ü°è¼º¿¡¼­ À§´ëÇÑ ÈûÀ» ¹ß°ßÇÒ ÇÊ¿ä°¡ ÀÖ´Ù.

(Our Higher power will remove our defects of character if we stay connected to people in the recovery meeting. Higher Power works through people. Spirituality and the healing it brings comes from relationships with people - loving, caring, relationships. We will need to find our Higher Power each day in the new relationships our recovery brings to us)

¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¼­·Î µ¹º¸´Â °ü°è¼ºÀ» ÇнÀÇØ¾ß ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ °áÁ¡µéµµ Á¦°Å µÉ °ÍÀÌ´Ù. Çϳª´Ô²²¼­´Â »ç¶÷µéÀ» ÅëÇؼ­ ¿ª»çÇϽùǷΠȸº¹¸ðÀÓ Âü¿©ÀÚµé °£¿¡ ¼­·Î °¡±õ°Ô Áö³»¸é Ä¡À¯°¡ µÈ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀº °¡Á· ¸â¹öµé°úÀÇ »õ·Î¿î °ü°è¼º¿¡¼­µµ ±×µéÀ» ¸¹ÀÌ µ¹º¸°í Á¸ÁßÇØ¾ß ÇÑ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÀÌ·¸°Ô ÇÒ ¶§¿¡¸¸ À§´ëÇÑ Èû²²¼­´Â ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ¼º°Ý°áÇÔµéÀ» Á¦°Å ÇØ Áֽôµ¥ ¸¹Àº »ç¶÷µé·Î ÇÏ¿©±Ý °ü¿©ÇÏ°Ô ÇÏ½Ç °ÍÀÌ´Ù.

(As we learn to have caring relationships, our character defects will be removed. Since God works through people, let's stay close to the people recovery has brought to us. We should treat our family members with as much care and respect as we do our new relationships. As we do this, our Higher Power will have many people to work through as He removes our character defects)

3. ¼º°Ý»ó ¾àÁ¡µéÀ» ¸ðµÎ
(...All these defects of characte)

ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ ¿ì¸®µéÀº 12´Ü°è¿¡ ´É·ÂÀÌ ÀÖÀ½À» ¾Ë ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù. 6 ´Ü°è´Â ¡°¼º°Ý»ó ¾àÁ¡ ¸ðµÎ¡± ¶ó°í ºÐ¸íÈ÷ ¸»ÇÑ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ¼º°Ý°áÇÔ Á¦°Å¸¦ À§ÇØ ÁغñÇϸé ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°è´Â ±× °áÇÔµéÀÌ Á¦°Å µÉ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù´Â ¾à¼ÓÀ» Çؼ­, À̴ ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°èÀÇ ¾Æ¸§´Ù¿î Á¡ÀÌ´Ù. ±×·¡¼­ 6 ´Ü°è´Â ¿ì¸®µé¿¡°Ô Èñ¸ÁÀ» ÁØ´Ù. ÀÌÁ¦ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¿©Å²¯ µÇ°í ½Í¾ú´ø »ç¶÷À¸·Î µÉ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù°í ¹Ï±â ½ÃÀÛÇÒ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù.
(In Step 6, we see the power found in the 12 Steps. It clearly states, "all these defects of character." If we were ready, this Step promises they can be removed. this is the beauty of Step 6. It gives us hope. We can start to believe that we can be the people we now want to be)

±×°£ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ³Ê¹«³ª È­¸¦ ³»¸ç »ì¾Æ¿ÔÁö¸¸ 6 ´Ü°è¿¡¼­ Á¦°ÅµÉ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù. ¶ÇÇÑ ¿ì¸®µéÀº ³Ê¹«³ª Àڱ⠿¬¹Î¿¡ ºüÁ®¼­ »ì¾Æ¿ÔÁö¸¸ À̰͵µ Á¦°Å µÉ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù. ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ¸ðµç °áÁ¡µéÀÌ Á¦°Å µÉ ¼ö ÀÖ´Ù. ÀÌÁ¦ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÇØ¾ß ÇÒ ÀÏÀº ¡°°áÁ¡µé ¾øÀÌ »ì¾Æ°¥ ¼ö ÀÖµµ·Ï¡± ¿ì¸®ÀÚ½ÅÀ» ÁغñÇؾ߸¸ ÇÑ´Ù.

(We've been too angry. Step 6 promises this can be removed. We've had too much self-pity. This can be removed. All our defects can be removed. All we have to do is prepare ourselves ¡°to live without them.")

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ ´«¾Õ¿¡¼­ ÀϾ ȸº¹ÇÁ·Î±×·¥ÀÇ ±âÀûµéÀ» º¸¾Æ ¿Ô´Ù!
    (We've seen the miracles of the program happen right before our eyes)

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº ±×·ì¸ðÀÓ¿¡¼­ óÂüÇÑ »ç¶÷µéÀÌ ÇູÇÑ »ç¶÷À¸·Î ¹Ù²ï °ÍÀ» ¸ñ°ÝÇØ ¿Ô´Ù!
    (In our recovery group, we've watched sad people become happy people)

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº ºÐ³ë¿¡ Âù »ç¶÷µéÀÌ ¿ÂÈ­ÇÑ »ç¶÷À¸·Î ´Þ¶óÁø °ÍÀ» ¸ñ°ÝÇØ ¿Ô´Ù!
    (We've watched angry people turn into gentle people)

  • ¿ì¸®µéÀº ÅëÁ¦ÀûÀÌ°í ¹Ð¾îºÙÀÌ´ø »ç¶÷µéÀÌ º£Çª´Â »ç¶÷À¸·Î º¯È­µÈ °ÍÀ» ¸ñ°ÝÇß´Ù!
    (We've watched controlling, pushy people become giving people)

ȸº¹ 6 ´Ü°è´Â ÀÌ·¯ÇÑ ±âÀûµéÀ» ´©¸®±â À§Çؼ­ ¿ì¸®µéÀÌ ÇØ¾ß ÇÒ ÀÏÀ̶õ ´ÜÁö Áغñ, ¡°Áغñ¸¸¡± Ç϶ó°í ÇÑ´Ù.
(Step 6 tells us that all we have to do become one of these miracles is to become ready - ¡°To prepare.¡±)

ÀÏ´Ü ¡°¸ðµç Áغñ(Entirely ready)"¸¦ ÇÏ°í³ª¸é, ¿ì¸®µéÀº ȸº¹ 7´Ü°è¸¦ ÇÒ Áغñ°¡ µÈ °ÍÀÌ´Ù. ÀÌÁ¦ ´ÙÀ½ ȸº¹ 7 ´Ü°è·Î °¡¼­ ¿ì¸®µéÀÇ °áÁ¡µéÀÌ ¾î¶»°Ô Á¦°ÅµÇ´Â Áö¸¦ È®ÀÎÇØ º¾½Ã´Ù!
(Once we've become "entirely ready," we are ready for Step 7. Let's move on now and find out how to have these defects removed!)

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